Have you noticed the recent activity on the T.V and radio about bullying and suicide? How it's ONLY just becoming a serious problem. Well i would like to put a bit of insight into this particular issue. Facts that most people miss or ignore.
Many people, throughout my life have always told me to; "Ignore them and they will stop", say "Things could be worse", "When I was a kid, I went though worse and came out okay." And the kicker. "You're just saying that for attention, it's not that bad."
I would like to shed some light on these comments.
The whole, ignore them tactic, I'm sorry to say, does not work as well in real life. This causes them to try harder to make you crack, and sadly, 9 times out of 10, you eventually do. It feels and seems as though they live to make you fear people, become paranoid, anxious, depressed or even suicidal. They never stop. They want to see you fall apart.
"Things could be worse" statement, well, that's true. It could be worse, but at the time, when someone approaches you, telling you they are having a hard time, they already know. But that's why they tell someone. They don't want it to get worse. They don't need to hear the obvious. It's unhelpful and those who say it come off as unable to grasp the severity of it. It's a cruel and uncaring statement.
They went thorough worse when they were younger? Possibly.
Over reacting? Perhaps.
We don't suffer as much as they did? Bull shit.
Years ago, bullying was mostly violence. But it did have teasing, taunting, isolation, name calling, ect...
But now, violence is very rare, practically unheard of. It's all psychological now. Bullying comes in different forms, some crueler than others. Attacks on the persons feelings, isolation, warping ones sense of value and views on their body and life, causing awful thoughts to gouge their way into their mind, is by far the most sadistic form. It can eventually, in a high probability cause; anorexia, bulimia, stress, depression, anxiety, suicidal tendancies, self destructive forms as coping mechanism, violence towards people/animals, low self esteem, shyness, distrust and fear of people. These are just a few off the top of my head.
As for the attention seeking. If anyone comes to you for help about bullying. Don't brush it off. It is true that some people do make up stories, but it is uncommon. Most people that do pluck up the courage and inform someone are suffering and are reaching out for help.
I was bullied badly during my entire school life. To the point where I came to only one solution. Self harm. I did it as a way of coping. Because I found that no one was truly willing to listen to what I had to say. Eventually I attempted suicide. Twice. I began fantasizing accidents, involving myself. I still do. Later on I attempted to become anorexic. To this day I still have issues with how I perceive my body. I struggle with my anxiety and fear of change. I can get so stressed that I will break down and cry. My body will freeze up, become weak or I'll panic, when I see an old bully.
I've been diagnosed with depression for 5 years now. And I have grown accustomed to it. I have only now discovered reasons to live. The only thing keeping me going are some of my friends.
So when I see or hear these advertisements only now, it angers me. Why did it take them more than 12 years to figure out that it wont go away.
How many people died, took their own lives, killed people?
How many asked for help but were pushed aside?
How many ran away from home, from life?
How many became the "troubled" child or labled as the "freak"?
Why are they only just doing something now?
I want to scream at them. I want them to know that THEY helped kill people by turning their backs on them.
Only last year, 4 girls from a high school near mine, 2 years younger than me, attempted suicide. Another succeeded.
What about the boy who killed another, in PRIMARY school, with a fishing knife, because he "wanted to".
How about the boy who brought a gun to school and threatened to shoot people.
I want to know why people ignored these blatant facts of bullying.
It is worse than people think. People are hurting, people are dying, and yet, people are still trying to avoid the problem.
What is wrong with this world?